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11 things I choose in life

I am currently writing on a book about what I’ve learnt from being naïve, depressed, full of hate and anger, being lost and living in a reality where I believed that things just happened to me and I didn’t play any part in it. Writing this book has been a dream of mine since I had to write a psychology assignment about my life in year 11. I think that I am in a much better place in my life now to share my story then I was then and I know that there is a reson to why I have got this drive to publish my book now rather than back then. When I say “back then” I feel like that’s a whole different life to life as I know it now. I feel like I have become a whole different person to the person that I was without loosing myself in the process. I try to figure out how I have changed and how I got to know the real me. As I sat down and tried to break down what I have realized that has made me be able to feel excited about everything life has to offer and I felt like sharing that here.

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What I have learnt about life that has made me feel happy, content, excited, full of love and beautiful from the inside and out is:

1. Listening to what I need and who I want to be, and then just choose to be that      person has given me confidence.

 

  1. Being around people that make me feel good and that question “things that just is” make me feel alive.

 

  1. Taking care of my body and mind because I want to feel good (rather than look good) is the way to feel happy and content. Always be open to new things, don’t get too stuck in routines so that I close of my mind to development.

 

  1. When I feel stressed, I have to break down why I feel stressed. Most of the times I then realize that I don’t have to be stressed.

 

  1. Listening to my emotions and try to understand where they come from and also accepting them without panicking allow me actually get to know myself.

 

  1. I live the life I want to live now because I don’t want to waste any time doing shit that I don’t like. Life is about growing and I want to grow in a direction of possibility and like every part of the journey.

 

  1. Be open minded. Try new things, walk new paths, meet new people and ask questions you want to know the answer to. That’s how I grow, that’s how I expand my life and that’s how I get rich on experiences.

 

  1. Seek out the truth. The truth is that there is a truth, but that truth can change. If I always try to do what is true to me now, and always be open to explore the land of truth, then I will feel like I am, and I will be on the right path in life.

 

  1. Live to see other people live to be happy. I am treating other people with love and honesty if they give me the chance to. I love happy, funny, open minded, excited, loving and curious people, so I choose to be one myself. I have stopped to do things because I think that that is what people expect of me, and want me to do, if that isn’t what I believe is true. Other people are only humans too, and only because somebody say something it doesn’t mean that that is the truth. I now feel, and trust what I feel.

 

  1. I don’t limit myself to what I think that I can be. I dream big and make it happen. I am aware of the fact that there are always actions I can take to move towards the biggest dreams that I have. Once I understand that these are actions everyone can all make, I see that the world can be whatever I want it to be.

 

  1. Seeing what I do have now is the way of still being present and happy in the moment whilst I am moving closer to my dream life. I have to appreciate where I am at and what I have, always choosing who I want to be in this world and being happy and grateful for how far I have come. The minute I stopped looking at what I didn’t have and who I didn’t want to be a whole new world of possibility opened up in front of me.

Choosing all of these together has made me feel content and happy with who I am. Life isn’t about doing one good thing, it’s about finding a way of choosing many good things that play a big part in your life. That’s what I believe, because it has totally worked for me. I am free.

 

 

Confident people live with love

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My whole life I have lived trying to be myself, which to me means that I have lived my life doing what I enjoy. Being yourself to me means that you can express your thoughts and spending your time the way you want to without caring about the consequences. My struggle have been that I at the same time tried my best to be accepted of different people. I wanted people to like me so much that I was willing to sacrifice parts of me in order to get accepted. I did things that I thought I needed to do to fit into certain groups and I talked about what I thought was appropriate to talk about in these groups. My question to myself is; why did I care about what other people thought of me when I didn’t find what they cared about important at all? Why did I spend so much time trying to fit in to a group that didn’t care about anything I cared about? I simply don’t understand why I wanted to be liked and approved by them?

I just didn’t trust in my own ability to live my life. I thought that I needed to be more like other people to get anywhere in life. I didn’t believe in me, and that’s super sad.

What is it in our brains that make us try to be someone we are not just to be approved by groups of people that might not have the same values as us? I don’t know. I just know that my mission is to to make people understand that it is a waste of your time and life trying to please other people. I realized as soon as I stopped focusing on trying to be somebody that I thought that other people wanted me to be and trying to be more who I wanted to be things slowly started to get clearer for me.

You know how people tell you to listen to yourself, what you want and what you need, I believe that you cannot listen in to yourself if you are to busy trying to listen into what other people are doing. You have to stop comparing, get rid of all your made up expectations, be still and just trust that you are good enough with your own way of living. If somebody freezes you out or can’t stand you f you are not doing what they want you to do it is only because they needed you to confirm that what they were doing was right, and if you don’t do it their way then that makes them feel lost.

Confident people can see and value other peoples individuality. They don’t listen to what other people say is right or wrong. Confident people never tell other people to make them self smaller in order to fit in in. I believe that confident people hang out with people that live with love and happiness and see freedom in life. And that’s all I want. Freedom and love.

I’m turning into a hippie, thank god!

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Something happens when you start loving yourself. You care. It’s like all the “whatevers” and “why not’s” turns into questions of why. Why should I do this to myself? Why expose myself to this? And why not do that, if it makes me happy and healthy?

I want to see the love in the world. I want to see health and happiness. I want people to appreciate living and see that they can do whatever they want to do with their lives. I want people to hug and laugh. Forget about stress. Forget about musts. Because most of the time, they are just made up. They are because they are, but they don’t have to be.

Everything I do in my life I do because I want to be happy. I want to explore all the methods I can use in order to elevate my happiness and find peace of mind. I’ve recently started to explore the power of the breath. Joe Rogan had Wim Hof “Iceman Hof” as a guest on his podcast a couple of weeks ago, and listening to what he has achieved with just his breath and exposure to cold is mind-fucking-blowing. I’m talking controlling his immune system, running a barefoot marathon above the polar circle and climbing Mount Everest in his undies. I started to take cold showers maybe 6 months ago and I could really experience all the amazing benefits from it quickly. The energy boost, clearness in my mind and happiness are just a few sensations I feel when exposing myself to the cold water. Wim Hof combines cold therapy with a breathing technique which essentially provides all your cells with oxygen which allows you to really get in contacts with your inner strength and emotional being.

It makes me so happy and full of hope finding out and learning new methods to control and explore my happiness and health. I get excited to breathe. I’ll keep exploring ways that can help me boost my happiness and my love for life. And sharing what I learn make me happy.

Fuck you, inner critic!

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At our staff meeting the other day we had to confront things that we believe is true about ourselves and the life we live and lead, and question if that’s the only possible truth. We got to confront our inner critic, the one telling us that we cannot make it, that we aren’t good enough and invite some self love and… faith. I invited a new voice, one that says that if everyone can do something I actually can too. Seriously, there is a lot of things that I’m capable of, probably anything I want to do I can do if I put in the time, effort and ask the right people for help, connect with the right people. Every time my inner critic question my capability, this voice of possibility needs to speak louder, and openly question what the critic is saying. I did name her Psycho-Berta so that it will be clearer to actually have a conversation with her up there. When she tell me I can, when she question my capability, my voice of possibility and truth can tell her t shut the fuck up. It makes it easier to track her. Put her in check.

Other things came up, important things, that I’ve known but not really questioned.

“I have to or else I will get…(insert negative feelings).” I use these types of phrases a lot, and I have throughout my whole life. “I have to eat clean all the time or I’ll get fat”, “I have to workout every day or I’ll get fat”, “I have to go to bet at 9pm or I’ll get tired the day after”, “I can’t do anything after work because I will be happier at home”, “Carbs make me fat”, “I haven’t got what he/she has got so I can stop trying to achieve greater things”, “I can’t stop eating once I start”, “I will never love my body”.

These are the things that Psycho-Berta keeps telling me, and I believe her. Why? Because over time we gather up evidence that confirm that what psycho B is saying is true. Not only do I gather proof of her correctness, I look for it. And whatever you look for, you find if you believe that it’s there. Over time these believes become more and more true and it builds the life I live. So I walk around living, but with all these self made restrictions. Restrictions that actually is holding me back from living.

So, lets play with the idea that Psycho-Berta is full of shit and flip everything she tells me. “I eat what I need to nourish my body and what I feel like it needs”, “I work out only when I know my body needs to, and want to”, “I go to bed when I’m tired”, “I do what I want, when I want it”, “Food with carbs can be beneficial and provide nutrition and pleasure”, “I have got whatever everyone else have. I can do whatever I want to achieve if I’m willing to put in the time it will take to achieve it”. “I eat when I’m hungry and I quit when I’m full and content”. “I love my body”.

See there. That’s possibility. That’s living. And that’s everything I think of other people. What I think others can do, I will now act as if I can too, because I can.

 

Love to all the world, and a big fuck you to Psycho Berta!